Friday, October 24, 2008

I'm "in Love"

Good things come from being a lurker of other peoples' blogs!!! I found a song by Warren Barfield, and I'm hooked! Many of you have probably heard it, but I just came upon it, and decided to share! The song is called "Love is Not a Fight". First of all, here is what Mr. Barfield had to say about this song, which I think is amazing~

Here is a little insight into how some of those thoughts and ideas took shape to become my song “Love is Not a Fight.” The word love as defined by our culture confuses me. I have a close friend who told me he was in love and was engaged to be married, then in a matter of days he broke off the engagement and was “in love” with someone else. I’m confused. Another friend found out his wife of seven years, the mother of his three children, had been having an affair with a co-worker for a couple of years. Everyday she threw “I love you” around while destroying everyone who she said it to. I’m confused. The stories go on and on and get closer and closer to home. Love is all we need? I personally think we could all use a manual to go along with it as well.“Love is Not a Fight” is my conviction. I saw the abuse of the word love all around me, but I wasn’t one of the abusers, was I? One night during a fight with my wife I saw myself. “Love is Not a Fight” is my confession. The fight started over something very small and insignificant but quickly grew into a battle. In the middle of the fight I said, “I want out. You can have everything; I just want out!” What is love? That night my love was prideful, selfish. It flew off the handle listing all my wife’s wrongs; it failed. By the grace of God, my wife and I survived that battle. “Love is Not a Fight” is my conclusion. There is a definition of Love that is very different than the one given to us by our culture. It is seen in the person of Christ. It is the opposite of all the things I was that night. I learned through a fight that Love is not a battle. It isn’t angry. It isn’t a fight, but it is something worth fighting for. I want to be fighting for my wife, not fighting with her. Christ is the ultimate example of what it means to fight for love. He accepted blame that wasn’t His, and gave His life for the ones He loved. I want to follow His lead and exhaust myself for Love. I hope the song encourages everyone that hears it to fight for Love. I have received story after story of how the song is at work in people’s lives. I pray it continues to do its work.

Secondly, if you haven't heard it, go here to YouTube, and listen. Seriously LISTEN to the words ~ The Lyrics are below, so you can read them, too

Love is not a place
To come and go as we please
It’s a house we enter in
And then commit to never leave

Lock the door behind you
Throw away the key
We’ll work it out together
Let it bring us to our knees

Love is a shelter in the raging storm
Love is peace in the middle of a war
If we try to leave, may God send His angels to guard the door
No, love is not a fight but it’s something worth fighting for

To some, love is a word
That they can fall into
But when they’re falling out
Keeping that word is hard to do
Love will come to save us
If we’ll only call
He will ask nothing of us
But demand we give our all

I will fight for you
Would you fight for me?
It’s worth fighting for

Six months after being married, my husband did something I thought I'd never have to deal with (I'm not going to say it on here because it's still painful, but it's also private). It tore me to pieces, and it broke my heart. After six months of marriage, I thought I was done. I couldn't believe my marriage was going to last for less than a year. It was something I had been waiting for forever. I had waited to marry him forever. And, he went and did what he did to me? I thought I was going to be married for the rest of my life to one person, and then in one second it was all shattered. I will tell you what got me through this time. Prayer. Trusting in God. Knowing that HE would see me and us through. God is what got me through that time. God and Love. God showed me that love is bigger than any problem. That HE is bigger than any problem. This song touches my heart so deeply because it is so true. What would have happened if I had just lost faith and given up? It's been hard to deal with, still after 4 years, and it will probably remain hard to deal with for a long time. The scar is still there, and the pain hasn't gone away. But, man am I glad that I trusted in God, prayed to Him, and let Him help me see that my love was stronger than any problem Adam and I came across. I don't regret not leaving. I'm glad I stayed because my love for my husband has grown in leaps and bounds in the last 3 1/2 years. I never thought I could love someone this much. And, we wouldn't have had our precious girl if I had just decided to give up on him, on God, and on love!

Just remember to always trust in God, give any problem to Him. No matter how big or small your problem is, He will take care of you. His loving arms are wrapped around you, to comfort you, to hold you, and to show you the way. God is so amazing, and I can't imagine living my life without Him being my top priority!